Monday, May 30, 2005
ARGH!!
Disappointments never travel alone. A week before Starwars opened, agreed to watch Starwars Episode 3 with Choo on 30th May (today). I had to decline all invitations and endure boring outing with friends last week without movies (there's not many shows on last week, its either starwars or some boring crap), just so that I can keep to my promise of watching Starwars with Choo...
Sent him an SMS just now and he replied saying he had forgotten all about it and he's too busy to watch it today, how about tomorrow? I AM SO DISAPPOINTED, and I am packed till 17 June with family, trainnings & jobs.
Worst, he never even volenteered to admit his fault and say sorry. During the arguement, when he noticed his fault, instead of taking a step back and apologize, he unleashed his vulgar dictionary and doubted my intelligence. I had to remind him that I'm having a clear mind and his vulgarities are not gonna help in the arguement. Finally, he admitted his fault but without any apology.
Such disappointment! I took him as a MAN and take his words as accountable but in return, he acted like just another boy.
At this age of >22+, they are considered adults, MAN on paper (legal adults), they should be held accountable for their words. Yes, I agree that being humans, our memory can't hold everything. But, when you notice you're wrong, just admit it and apologise without hesitation. Don't try to argue your way through with Force/ Vulgarities/ Lame excuses. Yes, you may sound like you have the upper hand in the arguement, but what's the point? A fault is still a fault, no matter its a freak accident or human error or in most cases a genuine fault, when you are wrong, admit it readily, apologise and offer remedy. Behave like a Gentleman.
Back to being responsible and accountable, when you know you have poor memory, note down your appointments/ promises with paper & pen, PDA if you can afford it. Decades ago, man of this age are already laiden with the responsibility to raise a family and the trust by their family to feed them. Decades later, men of this age are better educated and read more, but their responsibility and accountablity are dropping. Their words are getting cheaper, promises are made to be broken and appointments are often made to be failed. Or maybe they just got poorer memory?
Maybe, its just the fussy me, the self centered me whom always sees fault with the world around me and never thought myself to be at fault. But, well, I had been trying my very best to remind myself to behave like how I expected of others. I had identified faults in me and I had tried to correct myself, effective or not still awaits to be seen. Just wished I am the gentleman I expect others to be and these boys do learn from their mistakes and grow out of them.
For a better world tomorrow.
P/S; Please feel free to comment, positive or negetive all welcome. From your comments, I may learn and improve.
Sent him an SMS just now and he replied saying he had forgotten all about it and he's too busy to watch it today, how about tomorrow? I AM SO DISAPPOINTED, and I am packed till 17 June with family, trainnings & jobs.
Worst, he never even volenteered to admit his fault and say sorry. During the arguement, when he noticed his fault, instead of taking a step back and apologize, he unleashed his vulgar dictionary and doubted my intelligence. I had to remind him that I'm having a clear mind and his vulgarities are not gonna help in the arguement. Finally, he admitted his fault but without any apology.
Such disappointment! I took him as a MAN and take his words as accountable but in return, he acted like just another boy.
At this age of >22+, they are considered adults, MAN on paper (legal adults), they should be held accountable for their words. Yes, I agree that being humans, our memory can't hold everything. But, when you notice you're wrong, just admit it and apologise without hesitation. Don't try to argue your way through with Force/ Vulgarities/ Lame excuses. Yes, you may sound like you have the upper hand in the arguement, but what's the point? A fault is still a fault, no matter its a freak accident or human error or in most cases a genuine fault, when you are wrong, admit it readily, apologise and offer remedy. Behave like a Gentleman.
Back to being responsible and accountable, when you know you have poor memory, note down your appointments/ promises with paper & pen, PDA if you can afford it. Decades ago, man of this age are already laiden with the responsibility to raise a family and the trust by their family to feed them. Decades later, men of this age are better educated and read more, but their responsibility and accountablity are dropping. Their words are getting cheaper, promises are made to be broken and appointments are often made to be failed. Or maybe they just got poorer memory?
Maybe, its just the fussy me, the self centered me whom always sees fault with the world around me and never thought myself to be at fault. But, well, I had been trying my very best to remind myself to behave like how I expected of others. I had identified faults in me and I had tried to correct myself, effective or not still awaits to be seen. Just wished I am the gentleman I expect others to be and these boys do learn from their mistakes and grow out of them.
For a better world tomorrow.
P/S; Please feel free to comment, positive or negetive all welcome. From your comments, I may learn and improve.
# posted by Dave Fisherman : 5/30/2005 02:00:00 AM
